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Getting to Know Yourself



  • Are you easily overwhelmed by things like lights, smells, or loud sounds?

  • Do you find yourself unsettled if you have a lot to do in a short amount of time?

  • Do you avoid violent movies and TV shows?

  • Do you need to withdraw during busy days? Do you find yourself crawling into bed, escaping into a dark room, or find a place where you can have privacy and relief?

  • Do you arrange your life so as to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?

  • Do you notice or enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, or works of art?

  • Do you have a rich and complex inner life?

  • Have others suggested that you are sensitive or shy?

Click here to take the self-test developed by Dr. Elaine Aron.

Dear Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

…or anyone raising a highly sensitive child (HSC),

Welcome. I’m Elaine Aron. I began researching high sensitivity in 1991 and continue to do research on it now, also calling it Sensory-Processing Sensitivity (SPS, the trait’s scientific term). I never planned to write any self-help books, but those who have this trait seem to gain a great deal from knowing about it.  You can find my books here.

If you find you are highly sensitive, or your child is, I’d like you to know the following:

  • Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.

  • It is innate. In fact, biologists have found it in over 100 species (and probably there are many more) from fruit flies, birds, and fish to dogs, cats, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of highly sensitive persons (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others’. To learn more about this, see Research.

  • You are more aware than others of subtleties. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.

  • You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or novel for a long time.

  • This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called “shy.” But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extroverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.

  • Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem. They are told “don’t be so sensitive” so that they feel abnormal.

You are definitely not alone. For example, tens of thousands of people have subscribed to the newsletter, Comfort Zone, offered here. If you want to know more about sensitivity, I invite you to click on the links at the top of the page and explore this site.


I am an HSP-Knowledgeable Therapist.

I think understandings of high sensitivity or the idea of being an empathy can help us understand our experience of the world. 

I think that therapy offers a great opportunity to think more deeply about our lives and about ourselves. Therapy can offer a space to explore, change, create, or try out new aspects of identity outside of the judgment that we can often experience in other parts of our lives.

In the therapeutic relationship, we can spend time exploring who you are, who you care to be, and the identities you might like to hold. We can consider what brings you satisfaction, joy, and wholeness while also coming to better know the opposite - what it is that takes away from your life. With greater self-understanding, you may well find yourself better able to navigate the world in which we live and make choices that better meet your uniqu more e needs. With confidence in knowing yourself, you may be able to make more choices that are informed and aligned, empowering you with a better sense of what to lean into or out of in your life.

Whatever your concern and specific needs, I’d love to support you as you work toward finding greater clarity. I look forward to working with you to discover how you might best live a life you find fulfilling.

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"We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain."

Alan Watts



Calgary, Alberta, Canada

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I am honoured to acknowledge that my work takes place on the traditional territories of the Siksikaitsitapi (Blackfoot Confederacy), comprised of the Siksika, Kainai, Piikani, and Amskapi Piikani First Nations; the Tsuut'ina First Nation; and the Stoney Nakoda, including the Chiniki, Bearspaw, and Wesley First Nations. The City of Calgary is also home to the Métis Nation of Alberta, Region III. I recognize that Calgary is situated on the land where the Bow River meets the Elbow River, traditionally named Mohkinstsis by the Blackfoot people.

©2021 by Chris Graham Psychology